Jenny makes some very good points here about how some people transition, the time it takes and the care they receive on the way. I am of the opinion that it should be hard, that way only those who truly need to transition will. This is a little like my idea that divorce is not too easy (ask anyone who is divorced) but that marriage is not hard enough. Anyway none of this is the point I wanted to make, it is that little throw away line about "hairy pantie wearer" that struck.
Why? did it strike me as insulting to those of us who have not made a full commitment to this lifestyle? did I find it insulting to my inner woman? was I miffed that this was about the trans hierarchy? no it struck me as the perfect description of what I saw in the mirror the other day. For much of last year I was keeping my whole body clean of hair, I stopped shaving around the end of November and am by now pretty hairy, because of the season when dressed this doesn't really show (whichever way I am dressed) at the moment, but it will when the weather warms up and I want to wear dresses and skirts more, and tops with a neckline, rather than turtlenecks. But getting dressed the other day I looked in the mirror and saw a "hairy pantie wearer" I thought to myself "what are you doing?" there was a definite moment of disgust. If actually analysed much of what I do is ridiculous, but it does give me joy, so I continue.
We will be starting our counselling sessions soon (29th January) maybe this is something I might voice at some point.