Paula's Place

Paula's Place

Tuesday, 3 January 2012

A Rose by any other name

Over on her Blog "My Life While Being Stuffed Back in the Closet" Arianwen has an interesting post on how we name ourselves.   Like her most of my life my female side has been anonymous, this was fine since she never met anyone, pretty much staying locked in.   I felt as though my taste for female garments was something "dirty" something I was ashamed of and naturally kept quiet about.   The advent of the Internet made me begin to understand that I was not alone, at first I would just look around at some of the sites on line.   It must be said that some of these sites did nothing to make me change my mind about the activity being "dirty".   I'm sure most of you are aware of the sort of site I am talking about - their existence is one of the reasons I am determined that Paula's Place stays "nice"

Anyway I digress, it was when I decided to join and start contributing to on-line fora that I found I needed a name.   I had experimented with a few I had been Babara on Second Life, I had fooled around with Emerald, but these seemed a bit too exotic, too rich for everyday use.   So how to choose, maybe adopt a name from one of my heroines, like Prudence (Prue Leife), Jackie (Jacqueline du Pre) or Anne (McCaffrey) but none of these seemed to fit, me.   Now because we grow up with the name that our parent's gave us we rarely think about whether it fits, we are just familiar with it, we become used to it, answering to it, signing it, it just becomes part of us, so choosing a new one is difficult.   As I was registering to join a forum I had to make a decision and make it fast, it needed to be a female name and one that no other member had already taken (rules of the forum) I just used one of the feminine versions of my male name.   Somehow I quickly became comfortable with this, and have been using it ever since.   When I think about the alternative version - Pauline - somehow just would not fit me, Paula does.   To a certain extent our views of a name are always clouded by people we have known with that name

What interests me here is that since having a name my female persona has become a person, she is developing her own personality, her own tastes and slowly her own style.   There are things that Paula does that Paul doesn't and vice averse,   Paula drinks Latte not Cappuccino, white wine rather than beer, wears mauve and pink rather than greens and browns, black shoes not brown.  This all sounds a little superficial, yet I think t is an indication of something more fundamental.   Since giving Paula a name she has developed as a person, this is just one of the reason why she needs to express herself to the world.

Edited for spelling
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