With that background it must have been so very difficult for those pioneer transgendered people to go through transition, rejected by society and often family as well. ARound 20 years ago there used to be a trombone player in one of the pro bands I gigged with, I'll call him Kevin. Now Kevin was a lovely sensitive musician, and a very fine trombone player, it must be said however, that he could be a little difficult to get along with. I like to think that I can rub along quite well with most people, I have a pretty broad spectrum of interest so can usually find some common ground. With Kevin it was different, he was so competitive, his motorbike had to be more powerful and faster, his football team better, his PA louder, I could go on but I think you get the picture. Typical competitive aggressive too much testosterone young man.
|Not us! we can actually play the instruments|
If only I had known before, I don't know what I could have done, but looking back Kevin was clearly in pain all the time, fighting against his own nature trying to show how macho he was. I hope that if I had known I could at least have offered some sympathy, understanding and compassion, I think he must have needed it. I don't know what name Kevin uses now, but if you are reading this then now that you know who you are I hope you know who I am, and I'm sorry.