As I said there was something else I wanted to do while I was at the Crystal Palace. Twice Paula has been to the Grape & Grain and found it to be pretty friendly pub. I know the beer, wine and welcome are generally good, but it was nice to find that Paula was as or more welcome as him.
The two previous times I had been here were fairly late and I had been dressed "up to the nines" (where does that expression come from) so it was nice to go in during the day, more conservatively dressed. I am sure that I was much closer to passing in my day wear, but either way every one treated my well. Over on her Blog Femulate (if you don't know it why not?) Stana has been mussing on whether it is important to pass, or to just be accepted and has come to the conclusion that acceptance is more important, and maybe passing comes from that, she says;-
"Now, I am personable to everyone I encounter. I don't wait to see how they react to me.
I believe that by being personable and outgoing, it surprises people and they react positively whether they read me or not".
I strongly recommend going over a reading the whole thing